Friday, November 11, 2011

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Monday, August 22, 2011

Healing With The Masters Set To Begin September 6, 2011. You Won't Want To Miss It.

Every once in a while you find a gem worth sharing. Today, I wanted to take some time to share with you one of my favorite teleseries, Healing With The Masters. I have been participating in this series for years and LOVE it.

Healing With The Masters offers another season of shifting and inspiration, featuring 24 shows with transformational speakers AND more than a dozen bonus videos, created to inspire INSTANT energy shifts.  It's easy to register and even easier to listen.  I have learned many techniques, meditations and philosophies through this series.  It is excellent.

Simply register and listen/watch from your computer. Yes, it's that simple.

You will be guided to the practices, insights, love, invocations, energy expansions and processes found on each of these 24 shows (and more than a dozen bonus videos).   And don't worry...if you can't listen live, you will be given many opportunities to listen to the recorded show.

don Miguel Ruiz - Renowned author of the bestselling book, The Four Agreements, don Miguel is a Toltec master and founder of the Sixth Sun Foundation.?

James Van Praagh - Celebrated medium, James is the Co-Executive Producer of the CBS primetime series Ghost Whisperer starring Jennifer Love Hewitt, based in part on his experiences.?

Lindsay Wagner - Popular actress and author, Lindsay is known as an advocate of human potential with her "Quiet the Mind & Open the Heart" Workshops and Retreats.

John Gray - Recognized author of the Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus book series, John is the best-selling relationship author of all time.

Barbara Marx Hubbard - Buckminster Fuller has called Barbara Marx Hubbard "the best informed human now alive regarding futurism and the foresights it has produced." Widely regarded as his philosophical heir, Barbara is a social innovator, speaker, author, educator and leader in the new worldview of conscious evolution.

Jean Houston - Prolific author of more than a dozen books, this American scholar, lecturer, author and philosopher, working with presidents, ambassadors and the United Nations, has helped pioneer and motivate the human potential movement.

Neale Donald Walsch - Internationally recognized bestselling author and spiritual messenger, Neale is best known as the author of the Conversations With God book series.

Jo Dunning - Known as "The Miracle Worker," Jo is a world-renowned spiritual teacher, author, and energy practitioner, creator of The Pulse Technique and innovator behind The Abundance Project.

This life and consciousness expanding program, Healing With The Masters begins September 6, 2011. Register today using the link I provided and give one of my favorite series a try.  I'm so happy I was able to share this with you.

With much love and gratitude for your time,

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

My Brief (But Memorable) Encounter With Abraham Hicks

I know, I's been a few weeks since I posted.  Summer hit this household in full throttle and I'm enjoying every moment of it.  I hope you are enjoying your summer days, too.

Today, I wanted to talk about my brief encounter with Abraham Hicks.  Actually, I thought I was meeting Esther Hicks...

I attended an Abraham Hicks Workshop a few years ago.  During a break, I saw Esther Hicks about 30 feet away from me.  I had The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham book in my hands and in a room of about 500 attendees, no one was crowding her and I thought, I'm going for it!  I walked right up to her and said something corny like, "Mrs. Hicks, Thank you for your book, it was inspiring to me, will you please autograph it?"  She lovingly said, "No."

What the?  Was she for real?  I can only imagine how dumb my face must have looked.  She gently told me that the act of her signing the book was equally as valuable as if I was to sign the book myself.  She said that the Source from which the book was written is the same Source that guides me and therefore, it doesn't matter who signed the book.

I remember looking into her beautiful face--her magnetic eyes--and there we were--just gazing at each other, smiling.  I didn't notice the 500 or so people in the room and after what felt like 5 minutes (but was probably more like 5 seconds), I quietly went back to my seat.

When I sat back down, I looked back to where Esther Hicks was standing.  She was talking with a gentleman who apparently brought his book to be signed, because I watched her sign his book and shake his hand and then he went back to his seat.  What the?  Seriously?  What just happened?

I was taken aback.  What happened in that simple moment was so surreal.  The contrast that I felt and saw "pushed" me to notice it and really "feel" it.

I realized some time afterward that I wasn't speaking to Esther, but with Abraham directly.  I figured I was supposed to "get" what Abraham was telling me, but I didn't.  How could the inspirational words and lessons in the book -- that left me profoundly and forever changed  -- written from Source Energy (whom she calls "Abraham") be my same Source Energy?  I didn't live a Divinely inspired life like Esther and Jerry Hicks -- I wasn't writing books and helping others.  The whole thing didn't make any sense to me.

Eventually, as situations and obstacles presented themselves in my life journey, I learned that for answers and guidance I had to go inward.  In meditation and in silence I can hear the "nudges" in the most beautiful and subtle way.  Most important, I learned to trust them.  

So here's the thing, I could have easily gone down the "I didn't get what I wanted", "I'm not good enough so I must not deserve", "She didn't sign my book, so I won't read any more of her books" or any other limited thinking kind of route.  Amongst the everyday noise and stresses of regular life, this brief moment was a clue that kept me on my journey.  I'm happy I didn't blow it off just because my book wasn't signed.

I attended the Abraham Hicks Workshop because I was looking to learn and grow as a person. Abraham's words were clues to keep me on my journey. Truth is, we are all constantly given these clues, the gift is in recognizing them and exploring them.  


If you would like to purchase the book I read, please follow the link on the left. By the way, this is one of those books in which I felt I learned more from the audio version, first...followed by the hard cover.   Enjoy!

Friday, May 13, 2011

Could You Be An Emotional Vampire? How Do You Know?

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s new book “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011) 

We’ve all got a smidgeon of vampire in us, especially when we’re stressed. So, cut yourself a break. It’s admirable to admit, “I think I’m emotionally draining people. What can I do?” Can’t be free without such honesty. Then you can change. These are some common indications that you’re becoming a drainer.
  • People avoid you or glaze over during a conversation
  • You’re self-obsessed
  • You’re often negative
  • You gossip or bad-mouth people
  • You’re critical, controlling
  • You’re in an emotional black hole, but won’t get help--this strains relationships and won’t free you
The solution is always to own up to where you’re emotionally stuck and change the related behavior. For instance, one patient in computer graphics kept hammering his wife with a poor-me attitude about how he always got stuck with boring projects at work. Instead of trying to improve the situation, he just kvetched. She started dreading those conversations, diplomatically mentioned it to him. This motivated my patient to address the issue with his supervisor, which got him more stimulating assignments. Similarly, whenever I slip into vampire mode, I try to examine and alter my behavior or else discuss the particulars with a friend or a therapist so I can change. Don’t hesitate to seek assistance when you’re stumped. Also, review the types of emotional vampires in Emotional Freedom (the Narcissist, The Victim, The Controller, The Criticizer, The Splitter)  to make sure you’re not one of them.

About Judith Orloff
Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and intuition expert, is author of the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) upon which this article is based. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness.

If you are interested in purchasing this book, follow this link: Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life

Friday, April 22, 2011

Bringing Light And Love To Unpleasant Memories and Thoughts

I was around 13 years old, I came home from school and found my Mom, Dad, sister and brothers in the kitchen.  With excitement, I announced that I wanted to study journalism.  I was met with mockery and laughter from the men.  A few weeks later when the information arrived in the mail about the colleges I was researching, I didn't even bother to open it and threw it in the trash.
I was 18 years old and at a (not so special) dinner in an Italian restaurant, I was told that I was a miserable person and an embarrassment to the family. Funny, I thought I had a right to be upset since I was missing a dinner where I was being honored with several achievement awards, one of which was for Editor and Chief for the yearbook.  I picked up the awards at the school office the next day and again, threw them away. 
As recently as four years ago, I announced my dream of wanting to write a book someday.  My brother (in front of about 15+ family members) stated, "That's good, but unfortunately no one would want to read it."  -- Once again, met with his chuckles.
A brother-in-law, who upon nearly every visit as a child, referred to me as "ugly" only because of my crazy and unruly curly hair and weight.  Once he even gave me a troll doll as a gift because he said it reminded him of me.  Another brother-in-law said, "It's sad that she's fat because she has a pretty face." Ouch!  I was within earshot.

I am in the middle of reading Bethenny Frankel's book, "A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life." (An excellent read if you are a fan of her reality show, by the way).  She refers to the noise she has had to learn to control and quiet down so that her inner spirit could soar.  Wayne Dyer refers to it as our ego or "Edging God Out."  It's that part of you that dampens your spirit with thoughts like, "who do you think you are?" or "I'm not good enough."

As I read her book and the various noise she has had to overcome (money noise, relationship noise, food and weight noise), I began to recall some of my own noise:  writing noise, self-confidence noise.

In reality, is it my noise -- my ego?  OR, am I allowing the noise and ego of others to enter my core being?  Did I allow someone else's issues invade my spirit and did I let it spread like cancer?  Whoa!  As I read her book, I felt a lot of things stir within me and found myself irritated as I recalled some of my experiences.

If you know me, then you know that I HATE feeling helpless.  I HATE the very idea of anyone or anything controlling me, EVER!  The thoughts about myself and my abilities were most certainly negatively impacted by my experiences. But, the question is, will I let it continue to control me?  I think not.   As I worked this week to clear up some of these old wounds, I was met with several quotes from various places.  I can only say my Angels and Spirit Guides were hearing me and bringing attention to the lesson with some powerful quotes this week:
“We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” – Robin Sharma

‎"Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life." --Mary Manin Morrissey

"A setback becomes an advantage the minute you see the love it offers." --Betsy Otter Thompson, Author.
"You may seem to be at the mercy of your emotions, but that's only because you allow them to dictate meaning to you"--Harmonic Wealth, pg 210.
Bethenny's book had me mentally traveling to places that I realized I never resolved for myself. By opening the window to some of these unpleasant memories, I have let the light in.  I write this blog post with a different heart, an improved one.  One that is more open to the flow of love. One that sees we are all on our own path.  Sometimes we'll run across each other, and it may not always be pleasant, but none-the-less, I will be thankful for the experience and continue to grow from there.

Bethenny's book also shook up some things for me as a parent.  What "noise" do I make for my kids?  Yikes! I'm certain to be more mindful about what comes out of my mouth.  Divine timing with an incident in school this week (ahhh, how I love my Flow of Energy, the timing was no coincidence) allowed us to discuss some of the rotten things kids say at school.  We talked about that "noise" and our Divine capability to hear it and let it go.  Ultimately, we have the control about what we allow to shape our lives.  Like shopping for a great pair of shoes, we pick what is comfortable and what makes us feel good.

We can make good noise, too. Our words and actions can also lift others.  As our world is changing and as I sit hear defining myself more and more each day as a wife, mother, teacher, Reiki healer, writer and speaker -- I am ever grateful for these experiences as it awakens a more loving and compassionate place within me.   Yeah...I'm better for it.
"It is in contrast where our greatest learning occurs.  Welcome them as they will serve you."  --Maria Flynn


If you are interested in reading Bethenny Frankel's book simply click on this link:  A Place of Yes: 10 Rules for Getting Everything You Want Out of Life

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Vultures: Better Messengers Than A Courier Service

This morning I woke up to a vulture perched on my neighbors chimney.  The view I have is direct and unobstructed from where I enjoy my first morning cup of coffee.  When I was really sick (for about 2 years), I woke up nearly every morning and would see anywhere from three to seven vultures eying me from there.  It used to frighten me as I always saw vultures as scavengers waiting on prey to die so that they could swarm in for the feast.

Seeing them made me scared and angry.  The vultures ignited my desire for better health on every level.  I was not going to run away from the challenge before me.

Picture taken with my phone as I wondered why they were visiting me.

I would (internally) talk with them and tell them they were wasting their time with me.  They weren't leaving. Resigned by the fact that I could not control the situation, I asked, "Why are you here?  What is your purpose?"  Something within me knew there was more to search and learn by these creatures who refused to land someplace else (away from me).  Instead of focusing on my illness, I focused on my journey and I did a little research on the shamanic meaning of vultures:
The scientific name for the Turkey Vulture is CATHARTES AURA which means GOLDEN PURIFIER because as it goes about it's lifetime business it purifies the landscape and environment in it's own natural way, ensuring the continued health and life of other living things.
The Vulture is a promise that all hardship was temporary and necessary for a higher purpose. Once a Vulture enters your life as a totem or guide, it will remain with you for life
Vultures live and work together, both in cooperation and friendliness. *
And so, with that, the vultures assisted in my healing. By letting go of fear and welcoming the process before me (no matter how difficult), learning took place.  This coming April will be one year of complete health--no doctors, no pills and a complete improvement on my quality of life. The vultures helped me "pick away" at the illness which gave me a new understanding rooted in compassion that made my spirit soar.

As I see this vulture this morning, I welcome it.  It comes in a timely manner as another chapter begins to unfold.  

Thursday, March 17, 2011

My Thoughts Regarding The Recent Events In Japan

I woke up Sunday morning looking at my ceiling thinking that the earthquake and tsunami in Japan was a terrible dream.  I was in such a fog that I had to go through a sort of memory checklist to recount what I did the day before to make sure.  My heart sank when I realized it wasn't a dream and I immediately sent a silent prayer of healing and support to the people of Japan before I began my day.  I felt a deep sense of gratitude for where I was and that my family was safe.  I felt gratitude for the greater learning we will all gain from the experience the Japanese people are now going through.

The authors and spiritual leaders I surround myself with daily have been consistent in their message of removing fear based thoughts and prayers to ones aligned with the Divine --sending, thinking, praying only with love and support and healing in your hearts.  I understand this and accept this as the only energy that is helpful to our friends in Japan.

Information is good to have in times like this, but I implore you to be careful as the news operates like a good movie trailer inciting fear-based emotion through their words and images.  Emotion and energy go hand in hand--so what you feel as you watch the news is what you are sending out.  As James Arthur Ray states, "Energy flows where attention goes."  Push your attention toward miracles, love, greater expansion and healing...whatever you do...choose wisely.

Many have asked me if this was a sign of the "end of the world."  It is not.  It is, however, the movement toward the end of our old ways of thinking.  The Japanese will teach us a great deal because of this experience.  The Japanese will help us understand that we must work in unison with Mother Earth and not take her for granted.  We are not separated simply because we can walk, talk and think independently.  We are all spiritually connected and work in alignment with this planet.  Through this catastrophe will be more enlightenment and greater consciousness...I choose to look for that.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Climbing The Mountain of Spirituality (With A Great Pair Of Shoes, Of Course)

The more I step outside of my comfort zone, the more sychronicity shows up in my life.  I see it as a "sign" I'm choosing and traveling the right road.

This week a Spiritual notion struck a cord deep within me.  Listening to an interview with James Redfield (author of The 12th Insight, The Hour of Decision), I felt such a sense of confirmation for the Spiritual work I am doing.

Mr. Redfield stated that during this current time in history, there is very little that can surprise us.  Most everything has been discovered, named and categorized.  What next?  Well, a natural tendency for us, as humans, is to move toward a Spiritual life.  With little to truly surprise us, we can now begin to explore Spirituality more freely.  We are unfolding and reaching clarity by being radically truthful about ourselves and our desires.  

The way I see it, we are realizing that the "stuff "we have acquired is not fulfilling us like we thought it should.  The "stuff" is only temporarily filling a void.  Once we get over the newness of things, then what?  What are we meant to do?  Why are we here in the first place?  Many of us no longer accept the norm and the politics as usual, we want truth and honest living. In fact, more and more of us are demanding it.

This is a great time to be alive because we are finally passionate for deeper meaning in our life that includes integrity and truth.   We are moving away from pointing fingers, assumptions and blame and moving toward loving, caring, and nurturing communication and understanding. More of us are moving away from quick, unthoughtful reactions and moving toward becoming a part of the natural change we feel coming--a change to peace and connection and alignment with our Spirituality, our Divine self.

Mr. Redfield says that we are all Spiritually connected. By eating healthy and organic foods we are un-dulling our minds.  By quieting ourselves, we allow intuition to grow, we see miracles begin to happen and our consciousness awakens.  Amen, Mr. Redfield!!

"Consciousness is, in fact, contagious." -- James Redfield

We must take a radical look at ourselves and who we are.   I believe that we strongly desire an improved quality of life, enriched with love and spirituality and overflowing with abundance and prosperity that feels more harmonic and balanced.

Being more spiritual doesn't mean living poorly.  We are waking up and desiring more than just the material things.  We want a balance between the material and the Spiritual.   We want to enjoy what we acquire with a deeper sense of integrity.  Filling a void with "stuff" is no longer enough or even an option.  We want to work from a different place within ourselves.  It is less about an agenda and more about genuine grace and Divinity. 

The more prosperous we become the more we are able to help others.  When we are "full" or "rich" and honest about how we get there, we are more able to freely give and be of service. Our own energy expands and naturally flows to everyone connected to us. Being of service and giving keeps us in touch with our soul.  

Friday, February 25, 2011

Sticker Madness: Is Rewarding Kids With Stickers Really Teaching Them Anything?

This week I was faced with a sticker dilemma.  I noticed my child was overly focused on how many stickers he had (or didn't have) from the teacher.  I asked him what the sticker did for him.  He said, "I get them for reading books."  I noticed the response was not really answering my question.  What did it do for him?

Knowing how energy flows, I thought about this with a different perspective.  Energy is rooted in what you are thinking and how you are feeling and everything flows from there.  Is the "I do and I get" philosophy I see permeating our schools a good lesson?

Why was he being rewarded for something he should be doing, anyway?  He's supposed to be in school, learning and reading and excelling.  Period.

The sticker reward is temporary.  The value of uplifting a student from within has a far greater impact in my opinion.  I explained to my son that the reward sticker was nice to receive, but at the end of the day the sticker was likely going to be tossed out or lost, what then?  (No response).

I gently reminded him that he began the school year struggling to learn 5 sight words at a time to now reading and understanding chapter books.  

I asked him if the sticker reminded him of what he accomplished.  "No."
I asked him if he thought about this accomplishment at all?  "No."
Does it make you feel good knowing that you accomplished this?  "Yes!"
Does it feel good to know this about yourself?  "Yes!"
Does it feel good to know that you are doing a great job at what you are supposed to be doing?  "Yes!"

Later my son came back to me and said, "Your right, the sticker only makes me feel good for about a minute."  I responded with, "Every time you think about this conversation how will you feel about yourself?" He smiled and said, "Really good."

Now, I realize that sticker rewards are good to show achievement, maybe create a little competition within the classroom--all well and good.  But, is the "what will I get if I do this" mentality evoking the greatness from within?

Where ever you are in life be the greatest you can be.  That great feeling from knowing you did the very best will be the key that guides you and will open doors to even greater things.

Just a thought...

Monday, February 14, 2011

Love and Appreciation: How Valentine's Day Became My Favorite Holiday

Before Valentine's Day became my favorite holiday, I used to dread it.  Except for my husband, I never had a special someone for this holiday.  And while, spending Valentine's Day with my husband is wonderful, the most memorable Valentine's Day I have, has nothing to do with romance.

At the college I attended, balloons were part of Valentine's Day celebrations.  One could buy one to a dozen (or more) balloons with a special message and have them delivered to that special person.  

Coming back to the girl's dormitory after classes, our hallway was filled with balloons.  Walking to my dorm room was comical as I dodged the balloons floating in the hallway awaiting for their owners.  

The last year I was there, a dozen balloons remained in the hallway--unclaimed--floating in front of my door.  Every time I left my room, I had to push them out of my way.   Annoying.

As we prepared to leave for dinner that evening, my friend looked at the unclaimed balloons to see if perhaps they were delivered to the wrong dorm.  She looked at the name and said, "Hey, they're for you!"  

What?...I had no romantic anything with anyone and as I recall this story, that year was a particularly bad year for me.  There was turmoil at home and I was in a very low place.  I kept it all inside and told no one.  On top of what was going on at the home front, I was the kind of girl that never felt deserving enough, good enough, thin enough, pretty get the picture.

I opened the note attached to the balloons and they were from a male friend--a male friend I had only recently began to get to know.  We just hung out mostly--watching TV, laughing, studying...nothing really special, but we enjoyed each other's company.  

The note was simple.  He said that he enjoyed hanging out with me.  He liked laughing with me and he enjoyed my sense of humor.  He thought I was a "cool" friend.  That's it.  No more, no less.

Little does he know that in his simple act of appreciation, how much he lifted my spirit.  It is a tremendous feeling to be appreciated.  That feeling was foreign to me until that day.  

Since then, I have loved Valentine's Day.  It didn't matter that I didn't share it with someone special.  I remember that day (many years ago) someone made me feel special and I have paid it forward ever since. A warm smile, a welcoming hello, a thank you, a compliment -- simple acts of kindness go a long way for the giver and the receiver.

Happy Valentine's Day.  :)

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Conscious Eating Is An Important Component To The Law Of Attraction

This week I recalled a question I got a few weeks ago.  "What are your plans with the blog?" Ummm...Plans?  Was I supposed to have a plan?  I sat down and started to think about it. Let's see...I want to share, I want to continue to expand my own personal and spiritual growth--and help you expand yours. Most of all, I want to share new ideas, I want to inspire a better quality of life, I want to spark a positive change and I want us to feel improvement.  To do this, we have to choose to live more consciously.  This week I want to share an important component I realized about food and the Law of Attraction.

Conscious Eating and Positive Energy
Before I dive right in, it's important to understand energy.  When I teach people about energy during a Feng Shui consult, I explain that energy is ever-present, ever-flowing and never-ending.  The importance in knowing this empowers you to notice whether the energy is fluid and positive or low and stagnant.  This is where specific Feng Shui techniques can assist you to align the energy positively and you are actively participating in making a positive energy shift.  So, if you are using positive thoughts and daydreaming (or journaling) for a few minutes a day as a means to put the Law of Attraction into action, Feng Shui is another component where the techniques enhance this for you in a more constant way.  But how about food?

Photo by Ximena Brunette
Did you know that food also carries energy?  It sure does.  Obviously, you will have improved health by choosing foods that are organic and natural.  However, because energy is in a constant state of flow, buying fresher foods, natural foods, along with cooking these foods from their natural state allows you to receive their positive "fresher" energy (and I'm not just talking about nutrition).

To add to that, because we are consciously purchasing and preparing these foods we are also then FEELING GOOD (integral for the Law of Attraction to stay in action) about what it does for us and for our family to consciously be living a healthier lifestyle.  We are FEELING GOOD because the action of buying produce that is grown locally helps our community and local farmers.  We have consciously placed ourselves in a flow of positive energy and we get the sweet blessing of eating the pure goodness of it.

This is beyond "you are what you eat."  This is actively making good decisions resulting in FEEL GOOD emotions.  Remember the definition of Law of Attraction is like attracts like.   It is always responding to you no matter what you are thinking and feeling (good or bad).

Foods, for me, represented my approach to life.  As I saw food and eating from an energy perspective it made sense:  Conscious eating leads to better health and clearer thinking which leads to better meditation, better intuition and better moods and better able to access a more positive flow of energy.  As a whole--mind, body and spirit--we are better for it.

Be Realistic
I'm not saying give up on pizza and french fries, go ahead and enjoy it!  I certainly do.  I am saying that food like that is not good if it is part of your daily regimen of dangerous foods contaminated with preservatives, refined sugars, bleach and other chemicals, trans fats, meats and chickens injected with antibiotics and fed genetically engineered grains or foods that are "man-made" and processed merely for profit, long shelf-life and falsely leading us to believe that it's inexpensive in a neat and colorful little package (which by the way, only adds to our overflowing landfills).

Unconsciously eating these dangerous foods on a daily basis does not necessarily clear the path for positive energy to usher its way in.  In fact, I can attest to the fact that it is lower, slower and clouded energy and I knew it simply by how I felt.  Is it any wonder we use phrases like "crashing" after meals.  Or, feeling a "sugar rush" only to "crash" in the end.  Or, feeling bloated, run down, tired....shall I continue?  

I often write about aligning yourself with the Divine.  Eating such highly processed foods is miles away from connecting with the most important part of you--the Divine you.  The light within you desires to shine bright, so why not give it the energy it desires from what is already Divinely in place for you to eat?

Is This the Right Decision for You?
It was for me but we are not created equal.  I work with others to help them feel their best, therefore, it is important for me to be at my best.   If this post doesn't resonate with you and you have been living well and feeling well...then stay on the path that works for you.   If, however, this has been something you've been thinking about or you've been getting a "tug" to do, then I encourage you to follow that Divine intuition.

A Few Ideas to Consider
  • A complete overhaul isn't necessary to achieve healthy habits.  Start slowly and use what you have.  As you run out of items in your refrigerator or pantry replace it with a healthier alternative. 
  • Experiment with recipes.  I have done my share of that and some have been complete flops which only leads to a good chuckle at the dinner table.  Many recipes, however, have been complete successes.
  • To get my kids used to new tastes, for example, I removed peanut butter completely for about 2 months then replaced it with organic peanut butter. This way they had forgotten what high-fructose unhealthy peanut butter tasted like compared to the new healthy version.  They never noticed the change.  
  • I removed rice for a couple of weeks, eventually replacing it with brown organic rice--everyone loved the flavor.   When I make chicken soup (from organic chicken and vegetables) I add extra water to it and then remove the extra chicken stock and store it in the refrigerator.  I use that stock to cook the rice.  YUMMY!
  • As for pasta...I find that whole wheat angel hair pasta tastes bests and absorbs the flavors of your sauces easier than thicker whole wheat pasta.  
  • Plain organic yogurt is excellent with raw honey and really good when you add fruit to it.  The health benefits to this treat are too many to list here. 
Food is a part of life and we must eat to live.  The question is, are we consciously living or are we on auto-pilot?

Sunday, January 30, 2011

What Does It Mean To "See Through Your Heart" and Why Is It Important To Practice Doing So Everyday?

I have been using this statement a lot lately, especially with my kids.  "See through your heart."  Thanks to Summer McStravik ( for inspiring the analogy I am going to use to explain this idea:

God gave us the ability to instantly know to remove our hand if we touch a hot plate. It is wired in us. That same gift was given to us by how we feel when we experience something undesirable.  If it doesn't feel good what do we do to feel better?  It is my opinion that there is always an opportunity to find what feels good if you choose to look for it.

My son came home this week telling me about a little boy in school and his not-so-positive behavior toward another little boy.  I explained that talking about this boy's actions was like "highlighting" the little boy's negative behavior and therefore adding energy to what this boy said and therefore unintentionally attracting this kind of undesired behavior into my son's own experience, I asked him to try and see it through his heart.*  

Photo by Ximena Brunette
My son and I began a conversation about the different ways we could feel compassion for the boys.  I explained that sometimes the things we see as "bad" could actually be good for us.  You see, if things were always good how would we be pushed to learn and grow?  It is the "icky" feeling that warns us and wakes us up. We "highlighted" the good that comes from positive words and actions, therefore, attracting more of that kind of energy and experience into his life. We discussed how good he feels when he lifts others up.  We discussed how it would feel to be on the receiving end of his positive words and actions.  We both felt really good about what we concluded together.  We gave thanks to God for the experience presented to my son and for what we learned from it.

"We can increase the frequency of guiding coincidences by uplifting every person that comes into our lives.  Care must be taken not to lose our inner connection in romantic relationships.  Uplifting others is especially effective in groups where each member can feel energy of all the others.  With children it is extremely important for their early security and growth.  By seeing the beauty in every face, we lift others into their wisest self, and increase the chances of hearing a synchronistic message." 
 --The Celestine Prophecy: Insight Number 8, James Redfield

The Law of Attraction is Constant
By definition the Law of Attraction means like attracts like.  It doesn't discriminate and decide what is best for us.  It gives us exactly what we are "putting out there." The unintentional thinking and talking we do everyday when we are frustrated, sad, worried, angry, annoyed or stressed has everything to do with attracting more of what we DO NOT like into our life experience.  We all have a tendency do this.  One conversation doesn't change the world or my son.  Daily practice is a must.

There is great pleasure to discover behind daily purposeful, loving and positive thinking. We have the power to direct the Flow of Energy we desire.

*NOTE:  If bullying was a concern, be assured, I would take proper measures.  My purpose is to write about this experience with the perspective of light and love and switching from knee-jerk reactions to "seeing through your heart."
Recommended Reading
If you have never read Celestine Prophecy, then you have missed out on some epic reading.  This 246 page paperback is a gripping story that takes place in the rain forests of Peru.  It is a fast-paced adventure and guide that reveals 9 key insights about life.   It inspires our thinking about why we are here and it opens our hearts with optimism and new found energy.  In the mid 90s, The Celestine Prophecy spent over 3 years on the New York Times Bestseller List and 2 years as the number one American book around the world.  You may use the link below for more information and for purchasing.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

More on 2011 and the Numerology Behind 111

One beautiful benefit I get by having a blog is the network of people I have connected with all over the world.  By researching my material I get to reach out to others, ask questions and learn more so that I can then share what I learned with you.

When I wrote my article, 2011, Numerology, Law of Attraction and Manifestation, I received a high number of responses.  Most of you shared with me how often you were seeing 11 or 111.  In my research, I came across celebrity numerologist, Tania Gabrielle.  On January 21st, Tania addressed the numerology behind 111.  I thought you would enjoy what she had to say and with her permission, below is what she wrote:

111-The Secret Code

Yesterday I received this question on my Facebook page.


‘If you add the last 2 numbers of your year of birth plus the age you'll be in 2011, the result will be 111 - or 11 if born in the 21th century.

‘What does this mean?’
Johan Peeters

Well, Johan, it means a great deal. Thank you for sharing this important piece of information.

First, add the age you will be turning in 2011 to the last two digits of your birth year – you must have been born in the 20th century. Do this for anyone you know.  You will be astounded. EVERYONE has the same number activated.


In fact, everyone experiences this code in the 11th year of every century.

However, this information was not known widely - until 2011, thanks to the internet. The fact that we are now aware of this universal activation of 111 is very significant.

111 is a powerful triple Master Number.
Triple 1 gives triple creativity, originality, leadership. It demands forward movement and Action.  Standing on your own. Relying on your inner resources to create instant results.

At the same time the three 1s show that ‘three’s a crowd.’ You are going to be asked to remain balanced while influences from your environment and the people in your life impact you on a deeper level than ever before.

11 is Light, Electricity and Activation.
111 magnifies this. The two outside 1’s are the pillars and the middle 1 is YOU walking through that gateway into the Light, into the Unknown, where everything is created.

The 111 literally SHOWS you are manifesting NOW. There is no choice in the matter. You are creating your reality very, very quickly this year.

What you think, feel and do will be reflected immediately. It will set the stage for a long time to come.

It makes sense that our children - those born in 2000 or after, and will be no older than 11 this year - will all be under the 11 influence. Children and adults born in the 1900s will help guide the younger children through the 111 gateway.

Why would the whole of humanity be tied to 111 or 11.  To let us know we must get our whole life balanced.

Make sure you address all those parts of your life that need to be transformed from division or incompletion into a state of BALANCE. Your health, your finances, your relationships, beliefs and your career.

Do you feel connected and grounded in the place you live. Do you have a good support network of people you can trust implicitly.

Pinpoint who and what is affecting you diversely. You only want to accept the uplifting and supportive qualities in your life right now.

111 adds up to 3 - the number of self expression, creativity, joy and perfection. 3 is symbolized by the triad of mother-father-child. So it represents Creation.

To sum up -
In 2011 we are all being prompted in one way or another to bring our life into balance. You do this by walking through the gateway of Truth into the Unknwown – 111 – and creating the life you always wanted.

It requires a lot of honesty, inner release work and a dedication to YOU. You are the driving force now. No one else controls your pain or successes - except you.

Here is the great news.
In 2011 you will be supported more than EVER to manifest your goals. This is because 2011 reduces to 4, the frequency that grounds and manifests your thoughts and emotions into Physical Reality.

So be careful what you ask for, you will manifest ALL.

I have a major event planned to show you how to use your own personal secret code to fulfill your dreams with brilliant speed. Announcement on the event is coming shortly.

Isn’t it amazing how ALL of humanity has the 111 or 11 connection in 2011.

When a code is activated across the board like this, its influence on you and the world around you is incredibly strong.

About the Author
Tania Gabrielle, Celebrity Numerologist Composer and Author of “The Unrevealed Secrets of Political Success: How Names and Dates Shape United States History” advises thousands of clients around the world. Her insights have been published in Entertainment Weekly and ESPN Magazine and online by The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Essence Magazine and US Magazine. She is a sought-after guest on radio shows across North America and Europe.

As a composer, Tania Gabrielle has enjoyed performances worldwide by Grammy-award-winning musicians.

More information about Tania Gabrielle can be found on 

Monday, January 24, 2011

What Makes a Teacher? By Letting Go of Traditional Ideas I Discovered a Different World

What exactly makes a good teacher? Is it the one with the most degrees? The one with the most published books? The one who markets themselves best? What exactly qualifies someone as a "teacher?" Like probably most of us, I admit to having [false] ideas of what makes a good teacher. I've concluded that it has very little to do with the teacher and everything to do with the student.

Amazing enough, what ever I required to get me to the next level of thinking (or doing) simply appeared.  It still does today.  The teacher showed up when my level of passion to learn matched the level of passion that a teacher had on the subject. However, the teacher almost never showed up in the form we would traditionally imagine.

Teachers in a Box

Unpacking boxes after arriving in Delaware I discovered one particular (very heavy) box of books from authors like Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Tony Robbins, Steven Covey, and more -- some over 10 years old -- none of which were ever touched by me.  I couldn't even tell you how I acquired them.  Looking back it's almost as though they were chasing me down and I was too busy to notice them. My husband read Steven Covey in the early 90s and I recall him attempting to get me on board with some of his ideas.  The student wasn't ready.  Let me digress for a second and take a moment to publicly apologize, "Sorry, were right."

Angels Getting My Attention and Bearing Gifts

What happens next is all about the Law of Synchronicity (in other words, there is no such thing as coincidence).  I suppose I had to be forcibly stopped--starting with my knee--a torn meniscus.  I arranged for a Reiki healing to help support the upcoming surgery and when the session was over the Reiki healer and I never discussed my knee but the deep pain I felt in my upper back.  It showed up almost out of nowhere and man was I in pain!  She said to me, "Have you ever heard of Etherical Cords?"  What?  Was she speaking in tongues?  When I left I couldn't even recall what she said to me.  The student wasn't ready.

Preparing for surgery I went to the internet and researched meditation techniques that would help with pre and post operation.  During my search, I came across an internet radio station, Hay House Radio and it peaked my interest.  I clicked on the show and listened while I continued to do my research. 

Doreen Virtue was hosting her show and I "happen" to catch "this" particular show where she discussed.....are you ready....Etherical Cords.  There were those words again!  This time I wrote them down.  I figured I had to deal with my upper back pain eventually, but in the meantime, I was going to get through knee surgery and when I recovered I promised myself to get back to researching Doreen Virtue and Etherical Cords (along with some Motrin to ease the pain).

Home from surgery (it went smoothly by the way) I had a couple of days in bed to recover.  I no sooner get comfortable in my bed and the doorbell rings.  My husband answers the door and then reappears in the bedroom with a box.  He hands it to me and says, "It's for you."  I hadn't ordered anything so this was a surprise.  It was a gift from my sister...a Doreen Virtue.  To top it off, my sister placed a post-it note marking the page where Virtue discusses Etherical Cords.  My body was literally tingling with energy.

Photo by Ximena Brunette
I was in bed and in awe.  It was like the Angels were saying, "We've been trying to get your attention. Please listen and read this book and get yourself on track."  I did and I got on track.  I learned about Angels, God, healing, energy...oh, and etherical cords and the back pain went away.  The Universe did me one better though.  After a lifetime of Motrin and Aleve it decided I should be allergic to them now.  I can't use them as a crutch anymore.

Doreen Virtue holds B.A., M.A., and Ph.D. degrees in counseling psychology.  All very important and I am not diminishing their value, but where is the degree for Angels?  It is Doreen's passion and experiences since childhood that matched my interest in learning and opened up a world to me that is beautiful and loving and healing and leaves me in a state of awe.  Since then I've removed my blinders and encountered many teachers in a variety of forms.  The Buddhist Proverb definitely proved itself to be true, "When the student is ready, the master appears."

Monday, January 17, 2011

Will You Notice Divine Guidance When It Shows Up?

It's been a week since I wrote about 2011, Numerology, Law of Attraction and Manifestation.  It got a lot of feedback.  Many sent me emails sharing the numbers they have seen popping up around them.  Thanks for your support and enthusiasm! So, did you set your intentions?  Have you been reading what you wrote down? Daydreaming about it?

On 1-11-11, I took the time to write down what I desired and how it felt to achieve the desire.   I have been reading it everyday and then closing my eyes and visualizing what I wrote.  This naturally lends itself to feeling how it would feel to achieve the desire (key for the law of attraction to work).   It is a pleasant few minutes a day with no expectations or worries as to how to achieve the desire.

Busy Thoughts Or Divine Guidance?

I often get the question about how to "quiet the mind."  I have found that focusing on one pure thought or visual for a few minutes a day is very helpful when clearing the mind is not easy.  This week I want to share with you what went on "in my mind."

Imagine you had a headphone connected to my mind when I sit down to focus on my pure thought. Below is a snapshot of the conversation that took place (with myself) a few days ago:

"Ahhhh, breath slowly... huh?  Ok, that's a good idea, I'll have to remember to look into that when I'm done visualizing." 
"Ohhhhh, another good idea, I'll have to do that focus!"
"Another good idea?  Is today good idea day or what?  Come on, I have to visualize a few minutes here."
"Yeah, I should call her and I can knock that project out pretty quickly....ok, ok, focus Maria!"
"Ok, I HAVE to write about that in a future blog post...good one!"
"What's going on here, why is my mind so busy today with ideas?"

Remember I said not to worry about the details or how you were going to achieve your desire?  Well, my ideas that were flowing into my mind a few days ago were the first steps toward achieving some of the desires I originally wrote on 1-11-11.   AHA Moment!!!!!  I grabbed my notebook and wrote them all down.  I now have the beginning of an Action Plan in place. When I was done, I went back to my pure thought and was able to enjoy the visualization without interruption.  Was this experience busy thoughts or Divine guidance?

Photo by Ximena Brunette
For me, pure thought is like a stone you throw into the water and the endless ripple effects is the flow of energy that follows. By simply allowing, the process begins to unfold.  Ideas, teachers, connections, books, offers (the list here is infinite) just "show up."  I'd say it is pretty Divine.

Want More On The Law of Attraction?

I have recommended this book before and still find it to be some of the best published material on the Law of Attraction.  Admittedly, the read may be difficult for some so I would start with the audio version and then the book for reinforcement and a place for you to bookmark and go back to for reference.

For the audio book series you may use this link to purchase:

For the book you may use this link to purchase:
The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham


"Imagination is everything.  It is the preview of life's coming attractions." 

-- Albert Einstein

Monday, January 10, 2011

2011, Numerology, Law of Attraction and Manifestation

2011 is said to be a year holding very good energy.  Have you been noticing number sequences popping up around you?  111, 222, 333, 555?  Many people around me (including myself) have noticed repetitive number sequences lately (for example 11:11 on the clock, 111 on a book page, check number 111, and so forth). There seems to be much ado with 2011 and specifically 1-11-11 (Tuesday of this week).  Many spiritual teachers around the world are hosting meditations, classes, webinars, help you understand the numerology and bring you into alignment with the good energy surrounding all of it.  

The Chinese calendar (beginning February 3, 2011) tells us that this is the year of the rabbit and for the rabbit in 2011, any recent setbacks or obstacles can be overcome, so look forward to a year in which to really shine, either personally or professionally. *  According to Doreen Virtue, "2011 is very supportive for changing careers, especially for those who are opening their own business."**

What about the significance of 1-11-11?
Doreen Virtue says to, "Monitor your thoughts carefully, and be sure to only think about what you want, not what you don't want. This sequence is a sign that there is a gate of opportunity opening up, and your thoughts are manifesting into form at record speeds. The 111 is like the bright light of a flash bulb. It means the universe has just taken a snapshot of your thoughts and is manifesting them into form. Are you pleased with what thoughts the universe has captured? If not, correct your thoughts (ask your angels to help you with this if you have difficulty controlling or monitoring your thoughts)."***

What's The Harm?
Without boring you too much, I think that even if you don't believe in numerology, astrology, spirit guides, Angels, energy or the Law of Attraction...isn't there some relief knowing that you are not working in this life alone carrying 100% of the burden?  Do you take comfort when you pray?  Talk to God?  Ask the Angels for help?  Converse with loved ones who have passed?  I do.  So why not state your intentions and send them out to the universe?

Clearly Set Your Intentions
I'm jumping on the bandwagon tomorrow and taking advantage of 1-11-11.  I plan to write in my journal.  The story I write will be descriptive of the life I desire.  I will read it every day, visualize it, and meditate.  I will remind my ego to quiet down and stop worrying about the details as to how my desire will come to be.  This is not about the how.  This is a time to let go and enjoy time with yourself and your imagination.

This is my gift to you.  Take advantage of this most auspicious year and tomorrow's most auspicious day.  Have fun and spread this information and the good that surrounds 2011 and 1-11-11.
**Doreen Virtue is a spiritual doctor of psychology and a fourth-generation metaphysician who works with the angelic, elemental, and ascended-master realms in her writings and workshops.  Doreen is the author of more than 20 books about angels, chakras, Crystal Children, Indigo Children, health and diet, and other mind-body-spirit issues, including the best-selling Healing with the Angels and Messages from Your Angels books/angel cards.  Learn more at

If you are interested in learning more, I recommend this book by Doreen Virtue:
Angel Numbers 101: The Meaning of 111, 123, 444, and Other Number Sequences

Friday, January 7, 2011

My Journey with Love, Not Heartbreak: Final Reflection of Eat, Pray, Love

I tackled the eat and the pray this week, now for the love.  I struggle to find the words to describe my journey with love.  I meditated today in an effort to give you (my readers) the very best from my heart.

In Eat, Pray, Love we celebrate Gilbert finding love in the last chapters when she unites with Felipe.  However, more than the love story itself, I think the true love she discovers is love for herself—appreciating her whole self, her journey, embracing all that she is (the good, the bad and the ugly).

She practiced celibacy for most of the year and traveled alone.  Yet, it was the relationships she had before her travel (especially with her ex-husband) and the people she befriended during her travel that (in my humble opinion) were the crux for her personal growth.  By forgiving others and mostly herself, she opened the doorway to more experiences with each encounter until she found love with Felipe.

I suppose you have been following my blog review of this book because I gave you a very personal perspective from my journey.  This final portion, love, I admit to you is still a work in progress—I am still learning to love my whole self, forgive myself and accept myself for being just who I am, Maria.

With that in mind, here we go.  I come from a loving family but one that based most everything on “what other people will think” and I was always horribly stressed out about it. Rigidity is probably the word I would pick to describe us.   I was brought up and behaved to think about everyone else (but myself).

I didn’t even begin to understand the notion of a different way to be until a very special person came into my life.  He was the extreme opposite of me (habitually late--I mean hours late not minutes--and very selfish).  Like a whirlwind I went from mostly irritated about his behavior to completely falling in love with him.  Aside from his not-so-appealing traits, he was a joy to be around and steered life from his heart.  I was so uplifted when I was with him that it made it easy to accept the other side of him.  I saw a new world through his eyes and my rigid self was relaxed for the first time in my life.  He broke my heart.  No...more like shredded it.  I was left alone on a journey to pick up the pieces.

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I recall what Wayan (the healer in Bali) says to Gilbert about love, “To lose balance sometimes for love is part of living a balanced life.”  Words couldn’t ring more true.  The risk of heartbreak was worth every minute for my experience.  It absolutely brought me more balance.  My rigid self transformed to be more flexible and accepting of others.  My life is far better and I will be forever grateful for it.  Expanding from it paved the way to new love--with my husband.  It is true love--deep love in every sense.   It encompasses romance, friendship, partnership and support.   We continuously push each other for greater personal growth.  He forces me to think.  Sometimes, he even irritates me.

Here's the thing:  what irritates me is merely a reminder of something I don’t like about myself.   Ahhh--personal growth--it isn’t always fun but when I finally work through it and get to the other side…there is a brilliant light and we both bathe in its love and warmth.  Love is patient and thank God my husband is.

Eat, Pray, Love is a book I thoroughly enjoyed and it gave me so much to reflect upon.  I am humbled that my friends thought of me as they pushed me to read it.  Her journey was unraveled abroad while mine was in the comfort of my living room.  The most important thing I have gained overall is knowing that no matter how difficult life gets, there is always a reason for it–a bright light in the end.  Faith in that alone is enough.

If you would like to purchase the book Eat, Pray, Love you may do so with this link:

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

My Journey With Food, Not Diet: Another Reflection of Eat, Pray, Love

2011...A new year and new beginnings.   We usually start our year with a resolution for improved health, a planned diet regime, or perhaps set personal weight loss goals for ourselves, I thought I would tackle the "Eat" part of Eat, Pray, Love. Like my journey with God, food was also a journey.  And, like Elizabeth Gilbert, I also discovered it was all about pleasure--but with a slightly different twist.

I was laying on the couch one afternoon after having had a surgical procedure done. With nothing to do except watch some television I came across a show regarding weight loss.  The person interviewed (I can not remember his name...sorry) said something like, "Anything you want to know about diets, nutrition and exercise just ask an overweight person, they have all the answers."  Huh?

I lay there on the couch (overweight) and thought about that comment.  Of course!  I have read Atkins, South Beach Diet, You On a Diet and more.  I have tried Jenny Craig, Slim Fast and Nutri-System.  I have joined a gym, consulted with trainers, attempted aerobics (never liked it by the way) and circuit training.  I can trace my efforts at weight loss back to Jane Fonda and those sexy 20 minute workout videos from the 80s.  Remember those?  I also attempted tennis and daily walking.  You know what?  They all work!  I have lost over 30 pounds several times in my life and have gained it all back and more.

I know exactly what is required for weight loss, desire (there is that word again). Learning more about the Law of Attraction and Feng Shui I have come to see the world as a constant flow of energy.  It occurred to me that I simply had to tap into the right energy flow to lose the weight.  The question was, how?

From the pages of Esther and Jerry Hicks' book, Law of Attraction:  The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham, Abraham explains a style of journaling that seemed rather simple as a means of bringing your desires to fruition--and being one who likes to write--why not?  I was rather incapacitated with my illness (and the following surgical procedures at the time) so major exercise was out of the question--the idea of writing was appealing.

I began writing about my desire to lose weight followed with how it feels to be thinner (which was written all in present tense as my desire will never arrive if I see it in the future--I had to put myself in a frame of mind that I was already thin).  So, I proceeded to lie.   I felt great!  Weight loss was slow but writing lent itself to starting my day on a positive note.  I wanted to do more.  PHASE TWO:  I began daydreaming (or Pure Thought as described by Abraham). Two minutes a day, I allowed my eyes to close and daydream about myself and how I looked thinner and more important, how I felt thinner.  What I realized was that my frame of reference was starting to shift to skinny person thinking.

As the days went on, I was finally able to exercise.  Starting slowly, I began using the elliptical machine a few minutes a day.  As my strength grew I added whatever exercise I thought I would enjoy.  Whatever I did for exercise, it was because I enjoyed it.  I kept it simple.

Finally, I had to consider food.  Here we go:  Diet--I really don't like that word.  What can I do here?  I LOVE TO EAT.  I LOVE FOOD.  I LOVE TO COOK GREAT TASTING MEALS. As I thought about how to handle this, I didn't make sudden nor drastic changes at first.  I did simple adjustments like drinking more water, adding more fiber, adding more salad.  I chose to add things because it felt better than removing food from my life.  I felt that this idea of adding was more in line with feeling good and worked within the constructs of the Law of Attraction.

Here is what I discovered, food had very little to do with my weight.  It was the energy I gave the food.  Because I wanted to dive into the energy flow that led me to weight loss through the Law of Attraction, I had to pay attention to my thoughts. I discovered that having been overweight since childhood, the constant messages playing in my head sounded awful:

  • Your going to eat that?
  • That will go straight to your thighs.
  • I shouldn't eat this or that.
  • That food is fattening.
  • A second helping?  Do you really think you should?
  • I'm already fat, nothing will make a difference now.

This is a complete contradiction to how much I love food, right?  During the times I ate, I realized that I was not thinking like a skinny person as I was throughout the rest of the day.  There it is.  I was paying attention to my daily thoughts moment by moment, bite by bite.   That self-talk was on instant replay with nearly every bite, every choice of food I made.  I took NO PLEASURE in eating and it showed in my body.  I had to make food my friend. I had to appreciate food and love food.  Smell it, taste it, feel the energy it took before it became the masterpiece sitting on the plate in front of me. 

Slowly I realized that pleasure was key to weight loss.  Elizabeth Gilbert in her book Eat, Pray, Love made me want to take the next plane to Italy just to eat.  I loved that her comment about food and weight gain were comical and light-hearted.  It wasn't upsetting.  It was proof of her pleasure.  It was momentary.  It was fun. Obviously, the weight gain (if you have seen her recently) did not negatively affect her body.   She already knew before she left Italy that the pounds would "melt away" by the time she was in India.

As my frame of mind changed, the weight dropped.  During my trip to Greece, I ate...everything.  I gained about 10lbs of joy.  It eventually came off.  I gained again this holiday season.  I know it is temporary. More important is knowing that I am blessed to have the means to purchase the food, blessed to have a kitchen to prepare food, blessed to have friends to share my food, blessed to have food choices--blessed, blessed, blessed.  

It's been two years and except for the natural weight fluctuations, the weight has stayed off.  I have come to learn more about food as other experiences have opened themselves up to me during my weight-loss journey.   Illness forced me to look at food (again) in a different way.  This is another post--another time--no worries though, I am still enjoying food.

For now, I encourage you in whatever resolution you have made for do it with joy in your heart.  Happy New Year!

If you are interested in purchasing the books I have mentioned above you may do so with the following links:

The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham
Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia

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